1 | Relate. You are not alone. This is even hard for myself to actually believe sometimes but it's true. We all are struggling and dealing with our own battles. They may not be identical to each other but close enough to relate and show compassion for one another. Hug worthy, right?
2 | Cry it out. Don't keep it bottled up inside because that will just drive you insane. Let it out and express your feelings to those whom you trust and know whom will support you and not tear you down. It's vital to remember to only talk to those who will hug you, be loving and compassionate. For example, only vent to those whom are sweet and loving...you know that sweet friend who says, "I understand...I know you can't see it, but it's going to be okay...this too shall pass...I love you...you have done the best you can and that is enough...you're amazing..." Don't have a sweet friend whom you can talk to? Email me, I am here for ya!
3 | Let it go. If it will not affect you in 5 years, then try your best to let it go. I know it's not easy, but it's true and works when you're dealing with that situation of "should I be worried about this?" If it will have an affect on you in five years, you take all the time you need to work through this difficult time. I completely understand.
4 | Space yourself. If you want alone time and to have a moment to collect your thoughts, go right ahead! I think it's normal and healthy to hibernate a little and figure out what's going on up there in that big beautiful brain of mine.
5 | Escaping reality. Many people like to escape their reality by turning towards alcohol and drugs. Yes, they may work temporarily but my advice is to stay away from those outlets because all they will do is make this time even more difficult than it already is. How about trying to escape your reality by watching a season of your favorite tv show, yoga and/or meditation? P.s. here is a guided meditation that I am in love with right now and has helped me relax and escape my own reality.
6 | Journal it. Yes, venting to a friend is nice, but when you actually write it out in the moment of high emotions it'll help you later on when you re-read it and see what the problems are and how to deal with them in a healthy way. For me, I like to journal to God as kind of a written prayer...and I am really honest with Him. I don't hold back even in the moment of high emotions. I think He appreciates the honesty.
7 | Breathe. Anytime that you feel you're about to loose it and start crying or your anxiety takes over your whole body, inhale for two-seconds through your nose and exhale out of your mouth for four-seconds. It'll help relax you. Also, try and repeat to yourself (out loud or in your thoughts), "I am doing the best I can, and that is enough."
8 | Compliment. Since we all face our own problems (internally private and/or externally expressive with our bodies), it is always nice to hear a sincere compliment from another human being. Try and deliver one to a person per day. For example, when you're in the grocery store and you see "Lily" the cashier wearing a really pretty necklace, tell her how gorgeous it is and it looks great on her. Even though it might seem like a super small gesture to you, it could really change her day and build her self-confidence. We need this. We need to know how great we are...every...single...day.
Well I hope my suggestions have helped. I'm not a professional nor am I always right, but I do know that we as human beings have to be compassionate and understanding to one another. We have to understand that we all are facing different situations that are not always so pretty. Yes, these difficult times will eventually shape us into the strong people we're supposed to be, but in the mean time try and love each other as well as yourselves. Treat one another as you would treat yourself.
Love to you all Casa de Góngora friends. -Chas